Thanks. I know folks around the country have been dealing with really serious floods and fires and big decisions. So I feel a little silly admitting that I sat on my couch and cried this afternoon. But Mama cat was looking for them - in all their favorite places. Owie.
Nothing is as sad as a mommy looking for her babies. That is sad to be part of, even if it is for the best in the long run. Loss is loss and it all hurts the same.
Sometimes we do the best parenting when it feels the worst. Little by little we try to prepare our kids for the stuff to come in their lives. Births, joys, and giving up things that we want to keep if it is the right decision, even if it hurts. Sending my best :)
Aww, I'm sorry. We've given away several wonderful babies too. Somehow, knowing this day would come doesn't make you feel much better when it does. But what a wonderful adventure it was.
I once had the bestest momma cat ever. She was BORN to have kittens she was so good at it. I had to give three of them away...I was SO involved in packing and moving I was only slightly aware of her loss and sorrow. I feel bad, but maybe it was good I was too busy.... Anyway...sorry you're going thru this...thinking of you...
I think schools generally do an effective and terribly damaging job of teaching children to be infantile, dependent, intellectually dishonest, passive and disrespectful to their own developmental capacities. ~Seymour Papert
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It is important that students bring a certain ragamuffin, barefoot irreverence to their studies; they are not here to worship what is known, but to question it. ~Jacob Bronowski
"Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family" ~ Virginia Satir
"I've sometimes found the Waldorf-y idea that the children play out our internal conflicts to be helpful. I do find that the more at peace I am with myself, the more at peace the kids are. Maybe some kind of wavelength thing, maybe I respond differently, maybe something else entirely." ~ Mary Margaret O'Melia
“So many people have said to me, ‘If we didn’t make children do things, they wouldn’t do anything.’ Even worse, they say, ‘If I weren’t made to do things, I wouldn’t do anything.’ It is the creed of a slave. When people say that terrible thing about themselves, I say, ‘You may believe that, but I don’t believe it. You didn’t feel that way about yourself when you were little. Who taught you to feel that way?’ To a large degree, it was school.” ~John Holt
I am a mother octopus. This is my cycle - take care of everyone, put my needs last, fall apart, put myself back together, repeat. As I struggle to break this cycle, I find that I'm having to ask myself some difficult questions. Who am I besides someone's mother? What are the things I like to do, read, make, ponder? Where is the balance between caring for others and caring for one's self? How much self interest is selfishness? What will I be when my children grow up - colorless blob or dynamic person? ~ Fourmother
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Learning Outside "Play is a vital part of learning. It is the rich backdrop in which children make discoveries, test out theories, explore questions, refine understandings and apply their developing skills." ~Wendy Banning, education consultant
Murdering the Innocents
THOMAS GRADGRIND, sir. A man of realities. A man of facts and calculations. A man who proceeds upon the principle that two and two are four, and nothing over, and who is not to be talked into allowing for anything over. Thomas Gradgrind, sir - peremptorily Thomas - Thomas Gradgrind. With a rule and a pair of scales, and the multiplication table always in his pocket, sir, ready to weigh and measure any parcel of human nature, and tell you exactly what it comes to. ~Dickens
Human beings differ profoundly in regard to the tendency to view their lives as a whole. To some it is natural to do so, and essential to happiness.... To others life is a series of detached incidents without directed movement and without unity. The habit of viewing life as a whole is an essential part of wisdom...and is one of the things which ought to be encouraged in education. Consistent purpose is not enough to make life happy, but it is almost an indispensable condition of a happy life. And consistent purpose embodies itself mainly in work. ~Bertrand Russell
There are in fact four very significant stumbling blocks in the way of grasping the truth, which hinder every man however learned, and scarcely allow anyone to win a clear title to wisdom, namely, the example of weak and unworthy authority, longstanding custom, the feeling of the ignorant crowd, and the hiding of our own ignorance while making a display of our apparent knowledge. ~Rodger Bacon
"Promise me you'll always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, if we are ever apart, I'll always be with you." ~Christopher Robin
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Oh, they are all so cute! You're a better woman than I am. I don't think I'd be able to let any of them go!
I don't feel like a better woman. I feel the opposite, like a not good mother.
Oh, when I saw the "no babies" picture I almost started crying. How sad :( Sending you hugs.
Thanks. I know folks around the country have been dealing with really serious floods and fires and big decisions. So I feel a little silly admitting that I sat on my couch and cried this afternoon. But Mama cat was looking for them - in all their favorite places. Owie.
Nothing is as sad as a mommy looking for her babies. That is sad to be part of, even if it is for the best in the long run. Loss is loss and it all hurts the same.
Sometimes we do the best parenting when it feels the worst. Little by little we try to prepare our kids for the stuff to come in their lives. Births, joys, and giving up things that we want to keep if it is the right decision, even if it hurts. Sending my best :)
Aww, I'm sorry. We've given away several wonderful babies too. Somehow, knowing this day would come doesn't make you feel much better when it does. But what a wonderful adventure it was.
I once had the bestest momma cat ever. She was BORN to have kittens she was so good at it. I had to give three of them away...I was SO involved in packing and moving I was only slightly aware of her loss and sorrow. I feel bad, but maybe it was good I was too busy....
Anyway...sorry you're going thru this...thinking of you...
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