November 19, 2008

"When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change." ~Thich Nhat Hanh

2 comments:

MOM #1 said...

Very true.

gaela said...

I sure needed to read that today. I hate it when I'm that head of lettuce that is blamed for not growing well-and I need to remember also not to blame the lettuce myself as we all just do not grow better by being blamed. Thanks